"This Morning's Lesson"

This morning while taking the kids to school, I witnessed one of those odd moments that bring forth deep thought. Well, it wasn’t too deep of thought for me because I have a remedy for it.

My Grandmother, Joyce Watts

I saw a few people on a bus stop near downtown Milwaukee. There was a guy and a girl standing near the bus shelter going back-and-forth. They weren’t being physical, but there was a possibility it may have lead to it. I was thinking it was too early for this type of aggression. Anyway, I pull to the light and get caught by the red light. I roll my window down a tad, just enough to be nosey and see what they were arguing about. It was the typical; he was just denying and she was going in on him. Then the more passive he was, it seemed the more she became aggressive. She then pushed him in his face and he just took it. The light changed and traffic pushed me forward.

Here is my issue…

Ms. Nancy, Yvette and Daniela

Being raised in the environment I was raised in, under the parental guidance I was raised under and being taught by the examples of “real” manhood I had as a child, I know it’s taboo (forbidden) to put your hands on a woman. I think most of you would agree or at least should agree. Well, my philosophy is slowly changing. For a man, you should near put your hands on the woman you are in love with for no reason, but she should never take your ideology and turn it against you.

“Oh, he doesn’t hit women so I can hit him and he won’t hit me back!” That is a common mistake women have today. If your husband, boyfriend or man doesn’t believe in hitting women or being aggressive with women (physically), you should respect that enough to follow suit. I find it common practice for many women to find this the opportune time to jump in a man’s face, push him in his head, grab him by the collar and totally belittle him as a man, but the first time he response “accordingly” the tables flip to him being abusive and a woman beater.

Today, we are witness to a society where many people are lost to who they are and what role they are meant to play in relationships. There are too many women out here imitating and emulating the male persona. Know your role!!! Okay, some may try to say I’m talking about the Gay/Lesbian culture, which I’m not yet, I hold-heartedly am referring to this idea that women can do everything a man can do; or at least should be able to. A few weeks ago I posted a photo of a woman holding a military rifle and mentioned she was a bout to drop it and this is why women shouldn’t be in combat. Many women came at me and were very unhappy that I posted that statement. Okay, you are allowed your opinion and I’m allowed to disagree with it. Right? I mean this is America, right?

My sister Shanyce Mc Gee and my daughter N'kya

Now, women, I feel you need to make your choice and be honest with yourselves and do it in a realty based mental state. In saying “women can do anything men can do,” you’re then sacrificing chivalry and the nearly forgotten practice of men being respectful and courteous towards women. As women, you want to do everything men can do even fight in combat, but are surprised and appalled and even fall under the protection of being a frail women if a man puts his hands on you. Damn, that’s a Catch 22 of I ever heard of one.

So coming from a man who doesn’t believe or practice being hitting or disrespecting women, I would like for you to think about this the next time you see a woman shoving, yelling, cursing, hitting and disrespecting a man while he just stands there and takes it. Feel pity for the example and impractical relationship practices they both are displaying. The women displaying her uncivilized and savage and his being a fool for putting up with it.

Me with my daughter N'kya

 

"Double Take...Damn!!!"

Okay FB Family and Friends,

I've voiced my opinion on this and have gotten several responses from women saying in wrong for posting such comments. In my own defense, I'm not posting my dislike of women who use or find make up, weave, false eyelashes, etc. to be disrespectful. It's my preference. Everyone has his own preferences on what he likes/dislikes in women. It's a personal preference.

The idea of my personal dislike was born after I met a young lady while I was attending school at SAU in Magnolia (AR). We met at an annual Kappa Party on campus. She was very attractive. Very sexy. I was on one over this gorgeous woman. A few days past and my room-mate came to me. He said Sasha asked him why I don't talk to her in our Ethics class.
I asked, "Dude, what are you talking about? Who is Sasha?"
He replied, "Ray, you sit next to her in Ethics!" I did sit next to a young lady in Ethics, but why would I talk to her? I didn't know her. Wendell (my room-mate) said, "Sasha said y'all talked at the Kappa Party and you got her number. She said you only talk to her on the phone, but not face to face."
What a second... Oh, DAMN!!!! That's Sasha??? At the party she was gorgeous with her thick eyelashes and long black hair, flawless skin and in class... Well, she wasn't.

What you lay down with, you'd think you'd wake up to. It doesn't always work that way!!!

"I Hate Reality TV"

When MTV's 'The Real World: Season One' launched, I was a total fan. It was so awesome. A television show about real life people, not actors and no script. Every week it was so exciting!!!!

Well, that was 1992. Lets fast forward to 2013. I must be honest and tell you, I hate reality shows so much now. Everything has a reality show.
I Googled "How many reality shows are there today..." and was one opinion:

"There are so many reality tv shows on now that it is literally impossible to track all of them. Reality tv seem to have taken over . Many people are not happy about this, but the shows just keep popping up everywhere! It seems as if anything goes as far as reality tv is concerned. The number of shows changes from day to day and it's anyone's guess what's next!"

I guess it's due to reality TV why I watch reruns of Law and Order and Supernatural. We need more normal television programming. I do enjoy Kevin Hart's 'Real Husband if Hollywood', which is a spoof of the reality shows out now. Saturday TV isn't the same. Today these kids are surely missing out from the awesome cartoons we had in my day. Sad song for the youth of today :(

"Good Men, Last Dayz"

Daniela's Men: Nasir (15), Nile (11) and Naim (6)

Last night, I had an intense back-and-forth with an amazing female friend. Like most of my subject matter these days, we discussed the lack of cultured and civilized prospective companions to build with today in our respective areas. Hey, I was once a believer in having to trim down on what you want in a woman/man because the pickings are so slim. With that being said, I guess I need to explain my position on this topic. 

Me and my little lady. My and Daniela's daughter (N'kya).

 I’ve been alone for one year now. I’ve not been interested in any woman since my wife, but there are moments when a female voice or physical presence is desired. Now when I say, “desired”, I’m not talking specifically about sex or anything on that level. What I mean by “Desired” is someone to talk to and do things with. Granted, I have some awesome female confidants who allow me to vent and are there for an ear or shoulder to lean on when I’m in a “Daniela Moment”, which is pretty often. These confidants, who all are amazing women, know my dedication and loyalty to my wife (Daniela) and our family. They are very respectful of her memory and my emotional dealing process. I say dealing because I doubt my emotions will ever actually heal. So in short, my desires aren’t physical yet, more so a friendship of sorts. Whatever… You all know my philosophy of everything is everything!

My homie Jeff Johnson: raising four sons alone. Soldier!

 I spend a lot of time wondering if people today are asking for too much in a prospective mate or companion. I’ve had these conversations with my male friends who are very good men; strong men of faith and values. These friends are caught in the general idea of many women that they are weak. Whoa, yeah, I said women consider them and men like us weak. I say weak based on ghetto mythologies. Men who love their children and sacrifice for those children knowing he is the sole provider and in essence sole controller of their well-being. Men who define loving his woman as a provider, friend, co-parent to their children, lover and whatever is needed to assist her in her goals and endeavors. These are men who don’t see their women as a paycheck. These men create and build for their children and women to succeed and excel as a divine unit as one. What else is there? What else should there be? A man who treats his woman with the upmost respect building understanding as one.

Weak! This man, these men are considered weak because he would rather work than hustle. He would rather go out with his woman and come home with her instead of kicking it with his guys and being tempted by other women and who may or may not come home. Weak! Not like these street cats who have been in the streets and still haven’t caught a lick! These cats who are stuck in their teens. Hahaha… funny cats is funny to me!

My homie (Andrew Gaines) who's one hell of a Man!

 Then you wonder why cats make the moves they make. Sorry, I’m about to get angry so I’m shutting this post down. Later!  

Me and My amazing wife (Daniela M.)